Dream you’re mine

The journey from miscarriage to whatever comes next

Big news! April 1, 2009

We have officially closed on the sale of our old house! Yea for only owning one house!! We had been paying for two since Oct…and although it was all part of our plan, it still is not fun to spend that much money each month. I celebrated with a root beer, ’cause I’m CRAZY like that.

We also now have a stroller sitting in our living room. We got the BOB revolution in mesa orange and hubs got a great deal through his PT job at the bike shop–almost 40% off! And my first order of cloth diapers comes today. I bought some used kissaluvs, which I’ll probably just supplement with a trial in the beginning. This is the extent of our baby purchases so far and no plans to purchase anything else anytime soon.

I am really struggling with how to tell people at work. Monday was the day I was going to do it, but every time I thought of uttering the words to my co-workers, I felt like I’d have a panic attack. There is just a part of me that feels like I’ll curse this pregnancy by saying anything, which is completely ridiculous and paranoid. One did ask me yesterday, so I’m thinking they will all just figure it out, huh?

And then there is my mom….I swear, she does not think before anything comes out of her mouth. She asks me yesterday if I’m nauseous. I say “I never have been. Why would that start now?” Her response? “You are so lucky.” (The beauty of being 39 is that I feel completely justified in calling her out for saying something stupid!) So I say “Lucky isn’t a word that should be used in relation to me and pregnancy. I’d gladly have puked my guts out to not have gone through everything I’ve been through.” Geez. I still can’t believe she said that!


Other good news: not baby related February 22, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 10:58 am

When my husband and I met, we both owned 1920s, small bungalows a block away from each other.  Three years ago I sold mine and moved to his.  This meant we had enough stuff to fill two of these houses in one and I brought two cats and an 80 lbs dog with me.  We were crowded and our plan was to look for something bigger…although due to all the animals and stuff, we wanted to buy a place, move in and then sell.

So we saved up money to be able to do that.  We talked about what we both wanted in a house.  And then one day last April, I walked the dog past a house that looked promising–full two stories and three car garage (in the city!) are tough to find, so we thought we’d check it out.  We ended up looking at maybe a dozen houses and, the more we looked, the more we fell in love with this house.  So we made an offer in May.  And we waited.  And waited.  Because this was a short sale and we had to wait for the seller’s bank’s approval to write off what they would be losing.

We finally got the call in August that the offer was accepted!  We moved in a few weeks later, made a few upgrades and purchases, and have been making double mortgage payments since October.  

We knew hubby’s house would be tough to sell.  Let’s just say it is kinda “boy”.  I did what I could in my time there!  We had put in new windows, sidewalk, redone the entire bath and kitchen, etc.  But the real hard part is that it is on a busy street and there is nothing you can do about that, so we knew a lot of people would be turned off.  Last week we pulled it from the market to get the hardwood floors redone, to either appeal to additional buyers or protect our house for the possibility of renters.  

And then we got an offer!!!!  After four months on the market, we got an offer of the full purchase amount, with $5k in closing costs.  I still can’t believe we got an offer AND it was good.  Closing date is March 31.  Woo hoo!!!

And as an added bonus, we haven’t touched our savings during this time.  I might have to for this next month, but I’m really proud of us that we made it work (while still doing Christmas presents and a mini-vacation!) and it is good practice since it is probably what we’ll spend on day care and stuff for a baby.


Preparing for Thanksgiving November 23, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 2:30 pm
Tags: ,

We are getting ready to host our first holiday as a married couple and in our new house.  I’m excited and nervous that we are forgetting something.  I do love having a goal, making a plan and being able to control the progress along the way.  So different than what we’ve been experiencing on the baby making side of things!  So just to get my brain organized around all of this, let’s make a list of our menu to make sure we’ve made our last grocery run…


Olive tapenade and a spinach artichoke cheese ball (both being made today), blue cheese, grapes and crackers


Turkey (this should be interesting!  We’ve never made a turkey in the oven before)

Garlic mashed potatoes

Roasted squash with sage and cranberries

Green beans with roasted pine nuts and shallots

Cranberry sauce

Crescent rolls



Hot apple cider with cinnamon and cloves, coke, and I’m sure we’ll pick up some wine and beer.

In-laws are bringing pies for dessert.  It should be plenty for five of us, especially since two of us are vegetarians!  It feels like I should make a salad, but there is just so much already.  If you are looking for an awesome green bean recipe, search for Not Your Mother’s Green Bean recipe from the Moosewood Cooks at Home book.  My family on both sides always requests it and it has been a hit at any gathering as well.  All you need are green beans, green onions or shallots, parsley, roasted pine nuts and olive oil/balsamic vinegar if I remember from making them a zillion times before.

Am I forgetting anything???


Moving is tough August 30, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 2:37 am

Thank God the extreme tiredness of first tri has passed!  After we closed yesterday, I worked on the house for 4 hours and felt like I hadn’t done a thing!  I had cleaned floors (dry mopped them and hubby came through with the scrubber) and washed, ironed and rehung drapes.  That’s it.

Today has been more productive.  In nine hours, I unpacked and organized most of the kitchen and china hutch.  Ran a couple loads of dishes–this is our first dish washer and I’m completely in love with it!  Oh yes, cleaned all the cabinets before putting stuff in them.  And did a Target/Home Depot run for supplies and food that takes minimal preparation over the next few days so we can focus on the house.  

So far, so good.  I wish progress was quicker, but am so glad it is a long weekend so we can dedicate time to this.  Tomorrow I should be able to finish the kitchen and then start in on the bathroom and linen closet.


Closing on new house today August 28, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 8:07 am
Tags: , ,

Today we close on the new house–bigger, quieter street and “ours” instead of “my house” or “his house.”  That is why I find myself awake at 3 am.  Well, that and the fact that I wake up every night to pee.

I’m scared.  It is exciting and will be really cool once we get settled, but I’m second guessing if this is the right decision, nervous about the finances with two homes and wondering how long it will take to sell ours.  I worry about my feet slipping out from under me on the stairs.  I have completely irrational fears about sleeping on a second level, like the house is going to crumble beneath us.  Where is everything going to go?  What should I do with paint colors and window treatments?  Should we use low/no VOC paints?  Which room should be the nursery?  How am I going to balance all the things I want to get for the house against all the reality of cost?  My mind is just racing.

It is frustrating too, because I want to push up my sleeves and start working.  I’m your typical first born, only daughter, Capricorn type and have a hard time accepting help.  I want to move boxes.  I want to paint.  All it seems like I can really do is wait for boxes to show up and then unpack them.  And then go back to the house to pack up more stuff that somebody else will have to move, which won’t be on my schedule.  

Ok, I gotta get some more sleep.


We got the house! August 6, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 11:30 am
Tags: ,

We heard from the realtor last night that the bank has countered our offer for another $2500.  While part of me wants to tell them to shove it, since we have been waiting on them since May 8, it certainly isn’t worth losing the house over that amount.  So we accepted and are now waiting on the official paper work with a closing date and such.  It should happen pretty quickly, which will make this first tri fly by (fingers crossed).


Good sign on the house! July 27, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — agplatters @ 11:22 pm
Tags: ,

So we made an offer on a house in the neighborhood on May 8.  It is a short sale, so needs to have the seller’s bank approve the offer.  It has been a slow, discouraging process.  But things are looking promising!  Today we had to sign an addendum from the bank that basically says it is the sellers who are selling the house, not them.  Our relator believes this should be the last step before hearing an acceptance this week.  We are so excited!