Good news all around! We opted to do a sequential screen, rather than just the one-time NT scan. It meant I had to go back during week 16 (there is a range, but that is what worked for me) and have an additional blood test. We got the fab results yesterday! Risk of Down’s is 1:1700, risk of trisomy 18 is 1:10000 and risk of spina bifida is 1:6000. Woo hoo!!! This is so reassuring since I’m 39 and one of my losses was confirmed as a chromosome issue (Turner’s syndrome.)
I’m starting to feel a bit more confident in this pregnancy.
Then we checked out daycare #2 yesterday. I don’t remember if I ever mentioned daycare #1. The positive things were that everyone seemed very caring–the type of folks you’d want to care for your child. But the negative was a little overwhelming. They just opened in the last year and it seems they have grown too fast, too soon. It was all in a one room facility with cube-type partitions separating the age groups. This made for an extremely noisy, overwhelming space. There is definitely a lot more to say about the facility regarding the positives, but I just don’t know that I can get past the noise and what that experience would feel like for a baby.
So yesterday we checked out #2. We love it and soooo want to take the baby there. Not only does it seem stimulating, organized, clean, peaceful, loving, etc, but they have lots of unique features that would reinforce the parents we’d like to be. They cloth diaper, which means less laundry for us 5 days a week. They make all the food from scratch, including the baby food which is steamed and pureed veggies. They use green cleaners, recycled materials in the playground, etc. It just feels right. Of course, we don’t know if we’ll be able to get in. One set of friends take their daughter there and love it. Another tried to get their son in there, but never got called back on the waiting list. So we won’t know for quite some time if we’ll get in or not.
What are our options in the meantime? Do we keep looking and find a place we can get into for sure? Do we use a mixture of the daycare at work and mother-in-law until we can get in? Probably the latter. Luckily work always has openings. It may sound like a great permanent option, but it is located out in the ‘burbs (where I work) and would mean that my husband wouldn’t be directly involved with the teachers, the friends would be in the ‘burbs and there wouldn’t be the diversity of Minneapolis. A suburb of Minneapolis is pretty damn homogenous. So it’d be ok for the short term, but not long term.